On Loving From a Distance
Okay, this entry is going to be a little more personal than usual, so just stay with me. If you had asked me about long distance four years ago, I would have laughed. Not cruelly, just… skeptically. I would have said, why would anyone willingly put themselves through that? And more than that: can it even last? Can something so stretched, so intangible, really be called a relationship? That was before I found myself in one. And now, writing this from the other side of it: almo
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The Sportswear Era We Forgot We Needed
There is something quietly radical about the fact that the most interesting thing happening in activewear right now is not a new fabric technology, not a Pilates approved matching set, not a water bottle with an emotional support personality. It is a grey t shirt, worn to the point of near transparency, that someone's older sister once sweated through at a 2004 kickboxing class. It is back the way a good memory surfaces: slowly, then all at once, and with a feeling you didn't
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Two Languages of Cool
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis and Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy: a study in opposites. There are women who dress. And then there are women whose relationship with clothes is a kind of argument; about power, about restraint, about how much the world is allowed to know you. Jacky O and Carolyn Bessette Kennedy were both making that argument. They just reached opposite conclusions. I keep returning to both of them not because they were stylish, though they were, but because of what thei
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The Alchemist Mind
The most interesting people share one quality. Not charm. Not taste. Something harder to name; the ability to make everything around them mean more than it did before. Alchemy, the old obsession, was never really about turning lead into gold. That was just the surface of it. Underneath, it was a philosophy: that with enough attention, enough curiosity, enough willingness to look closely at what others walk past, you could transform the nature of things. You could find what wa
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